Posts Tagged ‘Wellington counselling’
“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
Words penned by the psychologist Carl Jung in a letter to a Fanny Bowditch in 1916, replying to her request for clarification on a relationship. Had it been written this century, I am sure she may well have replied with – Umm, thanks, Yoda, but what the flip does that mean? I just asked you…
Read MoreWhen depression affects your relationship – setting the course to recovery
We all have our bad days when our lives feel out of control, and you wonder what’s the point. In fact, a recent study by the New Zealand Mental Health Foundation revealed that in 2020, 25% of New Zealanders reported feeling like they had “poor levels of mental and emotional wellbeing”. If you are in a relationship, this feeling may be fleeting as your partner says or does something to let you know that you are not alone, and they are here to support you whilst you find your feet again.
Read More7 Tips – To reduce your Christmas holiday Relationship stress
Why is it that a #Christmas that is supposed to celebrate peace and goodwill to all often ends in tears and frustration?
Read MoreHow do I talk to my partner about porn?
So, this months blog is dedicated to talking about porn and how not to let it destroy that good thing you’ve got going on.
Read MoreWhat is “The Gottman Method?”
When you think about couple’s counseling, does it involve the following scenarios? You spend sixty minutes talking about how it was great in the beginning but now [insert long list of complaints], while the therapist nods their head. They then suggest a weekly appointment for the next six months. Your partner spends the entire session…
Read More8 tips on how to breathe life back into your relationship
Separation can be messy, especially if one of you is still in love with the other. So before you start severing ties, here are some tips on how to breathe life back into your relationship and rekindle the love you once had.
Read MorePractical steps to heal from an affair
Working through an affair is tough. It takes tremendous energy and vulnerability on both sides. Drs. John and Julie Gottman have developed the Trust Revival Method, with three defined stages of treatment: Atonement, Attunement, and Attachment. The effectiveness of this model is being studied in a randomized clinical trial. I’ve watched hundreds of couples try…
Read MoreThe Sex Starved Marriage
Physical contact is a powerful way to convey positive emotion and nurture your partners spirit.. there is simply no better way to communicate: “You’re not alone”, ” You’re important”, “I’m sorry” or “I love you”. Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW is an internationally renowned relationship expert, best-selling author, marriage therapist, and professional speaker. Among the first in…
Read MoreAfter being a couple’s counsellor for many years, this is what I have learnt about LOVE
When I first started out as a couple’s counselor, I didn’t know how to help couples move out of emotional pain and start to make positive changes in their relationship. But as the years went on, and I ‘learned on the job’, I discovered there were some profound lessons to learn about love from working with…
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