Posts Tagged ‘relationship counselling’
Creating a balance of power in a relationship
If you were asked to describe the balance of power in your relationship, do thoughts of “Lord and Master” or “She who must be obeyed” spring to mind? Or would you answer ours is a relationship of equality, my partner is the yin to my yang, and we work in harmony – always. If you…
Read MoreCreating a New Year resolution together
Congratulations, you survived the sometimes stressful yuletide holiday intact. I hope you have been able to take a day or two to recover from the temporary changes to your daily routines and associations. If not, I do hope you get to take a break soon to unwind and recharge before your usual commitments of work,…
Read MoreResentment in a relationship – aka hurting you, hurting me.
In my practice, I primarily use Gottman’s relationship tools and talk therapy to help couples navigate the ups and downs of living a life in partnership. In particular, I use their metaphor of the four horse-riders of the apocalypse to describe the actions primarily responsible for the demise of a relationship. In Gottman’s parable, the…
Read More“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”
Words penned by the psychologist Carl Jung in a letter to a Fanny Bowditch in 1916, replying to her request for clarification on a relationship. Had it been written this century, I am sure she may well have replied with – Umm, thanks, Yoda, but what the flip does that mean? I just asked you…
Read More7 Tips – To reduce your Christmas holiday Relationship stress
Why is it that a #Christmas that is supposed to celebrate peace and goodwill to all often ends in tears and frustration?
Read MoreHow do I talk to my partner about porn?
So, this months blog is dedicated to talking about porn and how not to let it destroy that good thing you’ve got going on.
Read MoreWhat is “The Gottman Method?”
When you think about couple’s counseling, does it involve the following scenarios? You spend sixty minutes talking about how it was great in the beginning but now [insert long list of complaints], while the therapist nods their head. They then suggest a weekly appointment for the next six months. Your partner spends the entire session…
Read More8 tips on how to breathe life back into your relationship
Separation can be messy, especially if one of you is still in love with the other. So before you start severing ties, here are some tips on how to breathe life back into your relationship and rekindle the love you once had.
Read More5 Tips for reviving intimacy in your relationship
It is perfectly normal for relationships to experience periods of low libidos and a heightened awareness of the differences between you and your partner’s habits. Problems arise, however, when those periods get so long that you can’t remember the last time you were intimate together.
Read MorePractical steps to heal from an affair
Working through an affair is tough. It takes tremendous energy and vulnerability on both sides. Drs. John and Julie Gottman have developed the Trust Revival Method, with three defined stages of treatment: Atonement, Attunement, and Attachment. The effectiveness of this model is being studied in a randomized clinical trial. I’ve watched hundreds of couples try…
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