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8 Tips to Create a More Loving Relationship

Thursday, September 24th, 2015

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8 Tips to Create a More Loving Relationship

Your relationship with your partner has the potential to be the most fulfilling experience in your life. However, there are snags that can happen at every step of the way. No one ever said that relationships were easy!
The good news is that if you stay proactive, you can foster a loving relationship no  matter how many weeks or years you’ve been together. When you create a more loving
relationship, you make both you and your partner happy.

You won’t find much better than that!
Here are some tips for creating a more loving relationship:
1. Show your gratitude.

If you love your partner very much, than you’re obviously grateful for them.

However, you need to learn to express your inner feelings.

Your partner needs to know that you’re grateful.

It shouldn’t be something that goes unsaid.

You can show gratitude by being more open in your conversations or by taking loving
actions by buying gifts or suggesting ideas for quality time. Also, remember the words:
“Thank you!”
2. Incorporate more fun into the relationship.

You two may have separate ideas of what fun is, but try doing things together that you both enjoy. It doesn’t have to be anything big and extravagant, just try to find something simple, yet exciting.

The key is to do something where you both won’t know exactly what to expect. This
adds that “special spice” to the relationship and helps stave off boredom.
3. Go out of your way.

Yes, going out of your way for your partner may take some extra work, but it’ll be worth it!

Decide to make a grand gesture for your partner. Do this out of the blue and your partner will really see that you care.
For example, you could throw them a party or take care of something that you know
they don’t like doing.
4. Do activities they want to do.

By making the sacrifice  to do something you’re not all that interested in, it’ll make your partner feel loved and  honored. Of course, there’ll be interests you share, but make it a point to join in for  an activity they really enjoy more than you do.

If your partner has always wanted to go ballroom dancing  with you, perhaps it’s time to
bite the bullet and go through with it.
5. Keep their needs in mind.

As the years go by, it’s so easy to fall into patterns and restricted comfort zones, but you mustn’t forget about your partner’s needs.

If they enjoy an extra hug every once in awhile, go give them a hug.
If they like to talk about feelings and plans, sit with them and talk.
6. Say: “I love you” regularly.

It seems that you can never say these three simple words enough.

Say it, text it, email it, record it, show it. Do what you have to just to remind your partner of your true feelings.

This little phrase actually helps communication, lightens the mood, and fosters a more loving relationship for many years to come.
7. Listen actively.

While it’s important to express your own feelings, it’s also critical that you truly listen to your partner’s feelings. When you actively listen, you’ll begin to understand your partner in a new, deeper way.

They’ll also feel loved because they’ll see you being attentive and they’ll feel like their thoughts and feelings matter.
8. Support their ideas.

When you agree with your partner’s ideas, make sure that you fully support them in both words and actions.

This feeling of support will help your partner feel loved. When you don’t agree with your partner,  it’s still important to remain loving. Don’t shoot down your partner’s ideas or become overly critical. Accept what they’re saying and suggest alternative ideas if needed.
Follow these tips, encourage your partner to do the same, and you can’t help but have a
more joyous, loving relationship!

Why can’t I get attracted to anyone?

Wednesday, August 19th, 2015

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You meet a lot of people, but there is never that spark or chemistry. They can look great on online dating site, even be quite attractive, but something is always missing.

You are not feeling the vibe…

You might find yourself in one of these three reasons below but if you don’t, it’s because this list isn’t exhaustive. Lots of people feel no attraction for lots of reasons, and it would be hard to list them all.

If you don’t recognise your situation here, I’d love to hear about it in the comments below.

 

ARE YOU STILL IN LOVE WITH YOUR EX

Yes, you are nominally single – but your heart isn’t. Everyone you meet, you are comparing them to that one special ex-partner and you feel you’ll never find anyone you’ll connect so much with.

You are sure they were the best ever match for you.

What happens here is you filter everyone through the ex-lens, and of course since nobody is exactly like them – nobody is good enough.

At the same time – because your heart is still taken – you are not really available for a serious relationship, and that’s why you keep meeting people who don’t make the cut. Anyone who is serious will simply not get attracted to you, because you are not sending them the right signals.

THINKING LOVE ONLY HAPPENS AT FIRST SIGHT

You are looking for that unbelievable moment when you see someone for the first time but you feel like you’ve known them all you re life. This happens frequently in movies, more seldom in real life. It’s certainly not the norm.

Strong chemistry is often – lust, not love. We just feel sexually attracted to someone and we incorrectly conclude that means we have found Mr or Miss right… The right match.

It happens more often when you put too much importance on looks, and too little on everything else. Most people grow out of it in their teenage or young adult years, because they start to see they need more than just sexual attraction for a good relationship.

You can fall in love gradually, it’s the same love, it can be as strong, even more so than the first-sight kind. It’s usually the more long-lasting kind.

When you fall in love over time, you get to know someone, and start loving them for who they really are, and then chemistry follows.

Your relationships may not start with fireworks, but they probably won’t fizzle out quickly like them either.

YOU DON’T BELIEVE YOU CAN FIND A GOOD MATCH

This is the main reason, it’s made up of one of more limiting beliefs you have. I had some of them during that time I wasn’t meeting anyone I could feel something more than friendship for.

I thought it was too hard to love me. I thought there wasn’t enough high-quality matches. I thought all the best men were taken. I thought there was something about me that drove men away. I thought all men are immature.

And so I got what I thought was out there for me: zero men who are grown up enough to get me captivated by them. Lots of immature boys who only wanted one thing.

 

LET ME HEAR THOUGHTS… comment below

 

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