Couples Counselling

Ann guides the process so you can find your way back to each other
or support you in ending the relationship.

Couples come to me saying:

We love each other but we don’t feel “in love”.
We keep having the same destructive fights over and over.
My partner has been having an affair – now what?
We want to make it work but we can’t communicate

Communication & Conflict:

Couples fall into unhealthy communication patterns that end up leaving them in a going cycle of conflict - whether it is defensiveness, raised voices, silent treatment, eggshell walking and avoiding.

Ann helps you identify your destructive patterns, understand the underlying issues that cause so much hurt and teach you new skills to communicate more effectively (that includes listening too)!

Intimacy

Couples come with issues like low sexual desire, arguments about (in)frequency, one partner initiating more than the other, boredom and an overall lack of passion.

Ann helps couples understand how what goes on in their relationship outside of the bedroom is affecting their sex life – the amount and quality of intimacy they have and the desire to have intimacy.

Infidelity

Couples come to me when one person has had an affair or when one partner suspects an affair and they are incomplete crisis.

Most people feel like they need to make a decision about the future of their relationship right away – but Ann advises them to slow down and do the work first.

There are many pieces involved in this work but restoring trust and healing from the trauma of betrayal is essential.

Ann guides the process so you can find your way back to each other–or support you in ending the relationship.

If you haven’t worked on your relationship with a professional, then you haven’t even started working on the relationship. It is impossible to know what needs to change and how to make that change.

Making the First Step

The first step is simple enough – you BOTH need to commit to relationship counselling. It is relatively common for one or both of you to be sceptical that the process will help or that your therapist will be impartial. Ann makes every effort to understand the issues from all angles.

It is also vital for both partners to understand that the perfect couple does not exist...at least in the sense that they agree on everything and never argue. Ann's approach helps couples learn how to improve communication to resolve conflicts positively without hurting each other.