Words penned by the psychologist Carl Jung in a letter to a Fanny Bowditch in 1916, replying to her request for clarification on a relationship. Had it been written this century, I am sure she may well have replied with – Umm, thanks, Yoda, but what the flip does that mean? I just asked you…Read More
We all have our bad days when our lives feel out of control, and you wonder what’s the point. In fact, a recent study by the New Zealand Mental Health Foundation revealed that in 2020, 25% of New Zealanders reported feeling like they had “poor levels of mental and emotional wellbeing”. If you are in a relationship, this feeling may be fleeting as your partner says or does something to let you know that you are not alone, and they are here to support you whilst you find your feet again.Read More
Why is it that a #Christmas that is supposed to celebrate peace and goodwill to all often ends in tears and frustration?Read More
Currently, however, over 380,000 kiwis have a profile on Tinder alone.
So why do singletons prefer searching for a date online, when there are far more hard luck stories than successful ones?
So, this months blog is dedicated to talking about porn and how not to let it destroy that good thing you’ve got going on.Read More
Separation can be messy, especially if one of you is still in love with the other. So before you start severing ties, here are some tips on how to breathe life back into your relationship and rekindle the love you once had.Read More
It is perfectly normal for relationships to experience periods of low libidos and a heightened awareness of the differences between you and your partner’s habits. Problems arise, however, when those periods get so long that you can’t remember the last time you were intimate together.Read More
There’s never been a time in history where you can lay in bed next to your partner and cheat. The use of smartphones, Facebook and Instagram has opened a whole new world of possibilities for cheating. What is and isn’t cheating in a relationship needs to be defined by the people in that relationship. For…Read More
Working through an affair is tough. It takes tremendous energy and vulnerability on both sides. Drs. John and Julie Gottman have developed the Trust Revival Method, with three defined stages of treatment: Atonement, Attunement, and Attachment. The effectiveness of this model is being studied in a randomized clinical trial. I’ve watched hundreds of couples try…Read More
Many of the couples that I work with in my practice have feelings of mistrust when it comes to facing day to day challenges. In The Science of Trust, Gottman explores the milestones that all relationships go through especially in the early phases. Gottman states that most of the issues have to do with trust.…Read More