How does online relationship counselling and coaching work?

Online Sessions uses the same setup as any other video conferencing. You are in the privacy of your home, and you call using the zoom. All you need is a good internet connection, a working microphone and computer, and your chair.
With online couples counselling, there will, of course, be two chairs.
Can you do online couples counselling or coaching, if you and your partner are actually in different locations or even countries? Yes. Zoom, for example, can do ‘group’ video calls.

This can be useful if you are in a long-distance relationship, one of you are travelling, or you are in the midst of a separation but want to either have a constructive ending or see if you can salvage the relationship. The benefits of online Relationship Sessions.

There are many upsides to consider. These include:
1. You save money.
Time is money, and doing sessions from home means you don’t have to travel to and fro from your therapist’s office. And if you have children, assuming they are old enough to play quietly in an adjoining room, it can make a babysitter no longer necessary. This is also the case if you have an elderly parent at home who needs care.

2. You are more likely to both make the appointment.
In-person couples sessions represent two times more chances of something coming up to stop you making a session. Online therapy still works if the babysitter cancels, the car breaks down, the train is cancelled, or even if one of you is poorly. A cold or a bit of flu matters less if you don’t have to leave the house.

3. It means attending each session is not used as a weapon between you.
When a couple is in conflict, therapy sessions can become part of the bargaining. “You better not upset me today or I won’t go to the session tomorrow”. When the sessions arin your own home, these sorts of games lose their power. You are both at home, you might as well do the session.

4. If one partner travels for work, you can still attend the session.
Many therapists are fine with occasionally working with one partner on a third line (or always, if you live in different countries).
If you like more information or book an online session give me a call on 0212689842

Relationship counselling and coaching isn’t just for couples

I can coach you to overcome your blocks to intimacy and find the life you’ve dreamed of!

Can You relate to any one of these?

* Help! I’m feeling so frustrated and lonely because, after all this time, I still can’t find a partner.
* I’m tired and sick of online and offline dating merry-go-round
* I feel despair and hopeless about ever finding a life-long partner.
* When I start to get close to someone I sabotage the relationship.

What results can you expect?

Through my singles coaching and counselling services you can:

* Understand the blocks that are stopping you from letting someone special get close and become more comfortable with intimacy.
* End self-sabotaging behaviours and start self-loving behaviours.
* Increase self – esteem and confidence so you can go after what you want in your life and relationships.
* Resolve painful experiences from the past so you can create an exciting future with a new life-partner.
* Open your heart to a new connection and greater excitement in your life.
Are you ready to start a rewarding relationship?
Phone for a Free 15 minute Consultation or make an online appointment.

Interesting Blog from the Gottman Institute. https://www.gottman.com

In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman lists the 6 most common areas of marital conflict.

He explains that, “even in very happy and stable marriages, these issues are never ending.”

We will touch on these six types of arguments, the task they each represent for a marriage, and offer practical advice for addressing the solvable disagreements they often trigger.

Remember that all couples argue, and that’s okay. We grow in our relationships by reconciling our differences. That’s how we become more loving people and truly experience the fruits of marriage.

1. Work Stress
The Task: Make your marriage a place of peace.

The Solution:
Acknowledge that at the end of a long, stressful day you may need time to yourselves to decompress before interacting with each other. If you bring your work stress home, it will sabotage your marriage. Build time to unwind into your daily schedule. Once you’re both feeling relatively composed, it’s time to come together and talk about each other’s day.

2. In-Laws
The Task: Establish a sense of “we-ness,” or solidarity, between partners.

The Solution:
Side with your spouse. Establish your own family rituals, values, and lifestyle and insist that in-laws respect them. An important part of putting your spouse first and building this sense of solidarity is not to tolerate any contempt toward your spouse from your parents.

3. Money

The Task: Balance the freedom and empowerment money represents with the security and trust it also symbolizes.

The Solution:
What’s most important in terms of your marriage is that you work as a team on financial issues and that you express your concerns, needs, and dreams to each other before coming up with a plan. You’ll each need to be firm about items that you consider nonnegotiable. Itemize your current expenditures, manage your everyday finances, and plan your financial future. If you’re having trouble, see a financial planner.

4. Sex

The Task: Fundamental appreciation and acceptance of each other.

The Solution:
Learn to talk to each other about sex in a way that lets you both feel safe. The goal of sex is to be closer, to have more fun, to feel satisfied, and to feel valued and accepted in this very tender area of your marriage. A major characteristic of couples who have a happy sex life is that they see lovemaking as an expression of intimacy but they don’t take any differences in their needs or desires personally.

5. Housework

The Task: Create a sense of fairness and teamwork.

The Solution: The simple truth is that men have to do more housework. Maybe this fact will spark a husband’s enthusiasm for domestic chores: Women find a man’s willingness to do housework extremely erotic.
When the husband does his share to maintain the home, both he and his wife report a more satisfying sex life than in marriages where the wife believes her husband is not doing his share.
However, the quantity of housework is not necessarily a determining factor in the housework = sex equation. Two other variables: whether the husband does his chores without being asked, and whether he is flexible in his duties in response to her needs.

6. A New Baby

The Task: Expand your sense of “we-ness” to include your children.
The Solution:
In the first year after baby arrives, 67% of wives experience a precipitous plummet in their marital satisfaction. Lack of sleep, feeling overwhelmed and under appreciated, juggling mothering with a job, economic stress, and lack of time to oneself, among other things.
Why do the other 33% sail through the transition unscathed?
What separates these blissful mothers from the rest has everything to do with whether the husband experiences the transformation to parenthood along with his wife or gets left behind.

To read more blogs from Dr Gottman – www.gottman.com…