8 tips on how to breathe life back into your relationship
Separation can be messy, especially if one of you is still in love with the other. So before you start severing ties, here are some tips on how to breathe life back into your relationship and rekindle the love you once had.
Read More5 Tips for reviving intimacy in your relationship
It is perfectly normal for relationships to experience periods of low libidos and a heightened awareness of the differences between you and your partner’s habits. Problems arise, however, when those periods get so long that you can’t remember the last time you were intimate together.
Read MoreCyber-Cheating Can Threaten Your Relationship
There’s never been a time in history where you can lay in bed next to your partner and cheat. The use of smartphones, Facebook and Instagram has opened a whole new world of possibilities for cheating. What is and isn’t cheating in a relationship needs to be defined by the people in that relationship. For…
Read MorePractical steps to heal from an affair
Working through an affair is tough. It takes tremendous energy and vulnerability on both sides. Drs. John and Julie Gottman have developed the Trust Revival Method, with three defined stages of treatment: Atonement, Attunement, and Attachment. The effectiveness of this model is being studied in a randomized clinical trial. I’ve watched hundreds of couples try…
Read MoreDon’t trust each other! What do you do?
Many of the couples that I work with in my practice have feelings of mistrust when it comes to facing day to day challenges. In The Science of Trust, Gottman explores the milestones that all relationships go through especially in the early phases. Gottman states that most of the issues have to do with trust.…
Read MoreMore than friends: Recovering from an Emotional Affair
For Sally, it all started when she finally got on facebook after attending a school reunion. At first, she added her extended family, old school friends, neighbours, friends and a few local mums from the coffee group. After a few months, she reconnected with most of her old school friends, including her former boyfriend, Harry.…
Read MoreDo you have problems meeting new dating partners?
Do you have problems meeting new dating partners? The 5-second rule can help you! I was recently searching on Amazon for some of the top-rating non-fiction books and stumbled across the book by Mel Robbins called, The 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage. I then discovered Mel’s TEDx talk, viewed over…
Read More3 Betrayals, that spoil relationships
Infidelity is the betrayal our society focuses on, but it is actually the subtle, unnoticed betrayals that truly spoil relationships. When partners do not choose each other day after day, trust and commitment erode away. Partners may be aware of this disloyalty to each other, but dismiss it because it’s “not as bad as an…
Read More3 Ways to grow self-trust
Quoted from The Courage to Trust: A Guide to Building Deep and Lasting Relationships, “The person you need to trust first is yourself. No one can be as consistently supportive of you as you can learn to be. Being kind to yourself increases self-confidence and lessens your need for approval. Loving and caring for…
Read MoreInvest in Your Relationship: The Emotional Bank Account
While the science behind what drives couples to lose their emotional connection can be quite complex, we use a simple concept that can help couples reconnect: The Emotional Bank Account.
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