8 reasons why you should work with a Relationship Coach/Counsellor


Have you been battling away, hoping things will get better in your relationship?

Are you already recognising that you need help to work things out?

Have you already considered relationship counselling, but it just doesn’t feel like the right fit you?

If any of these questions resonate with you then Relationship Coaching could be your answer.

Relationship Coaching is a powerful, supportive and empowering tool for creating the quality and depth of love in your relationship that you most desire.

Here are 8 reasons why you should consider Relationship Coaching:

1. You didn’t get a copy of ‘The Perfect Relationship Manual
While making connections and developing relationships comes naturally to most of us, there isn’t a step by step instruction manual to follow so we know exactly how to keep our most intimate relationships running smoothly, remaining positive, loving and fulfilling.
A Relationship Coach will help you uncover the intricacies of your relationship and it’s unique makeup, so that you gain more confidence about what it takes to keep things humming along nicely.

2. You believe your relationship is worth saving despite the bumps and bruises.

Even though you might be in a place that feels uncomfortable, difficult and exhausting, you know that there is still something special underneath all the clutter that has been piled on top of your relationship, and you want to uncover and treasure it.

A Relationship Coach will help you dismantle the clutter piece by piece so that you can begin to see the diamond underneath the rubble and start polishing it so it can shine again.

3. You are committed to improving your relationship
While your family, friends and wider community can support you in your lives together, the only two people that can make your relationship work are the two people in it. And nothing will change, while nothing changes, until you are ready to give your relationship the gift of effort and commitment and not settle for less than the best together.
A Relationship Coach will provide you new tools, promote new thinking and support you in new discoveries then encourage you to use these to improve and optimise your relationship.

4. You are willing to let go of all your old stuff
What happened in the past is done. While events may have shaped what you have today, moving forward is the only way to push away from what is and get to where you want to be. Dwelling in the past and recycling every wrong won’t give you anything more than more hurt, until you are ready to let go and step forward into the light of an amazing love together.
A Relationship Coach will hold your hand (literally if you need them to) so that you can take those first steps forward, and then the next and so on. Soon you will gain momentum and will move you quickly towards the love you most desire.

5. You are willing to be vulnerable and honest
The only way to really get what we want most from our relationships is to be vulnerable and honest with each other about what we want and need both for ourselves, and for our partner. Without total honesty and a willingness to open our hearts we close ourselves off to the richness of a deep and honest love that goes the distance.
A Relationship Coach will create a space for you so that you can take down the walls, drop the defences, lay yourself bare and let love in.

6. You are willing to be heard, listen and learn.
I believe our relationships are where we learn the most about ourselves. But over time, and through our challenges, we tend to shut off from each other, and often ourselves, to protect and preserve. But there is so much richness and learning to be had when we are heard, can listen and are willing to learn.
A Relationship Coach will provide you a safe space to be heard so that you can share what your heart wants to say and encourage you to listen so that you can learn to hear the reply from your partner’s heart.

7.You’re willing to grow, push your boundaries and make new choices.
We are where we are through what we know today. But when we know better, we can do better. Achieving ultimate love will require you to push beyond that which is holding you back now, expand your thinking, let go of limitations and make new choices that will give you more of what you want.
A Relationship Coach will share with you new perspectives, help you create new possibilities and encourage you to ask for and expect more from life and love.

8. You want to be true to yourself and live authentically
The best relationships allow you to be exactly who you are, just as you are in all your authenticity and trust that you will be received and accepted. There is no need to cloak yourself in falsehoods or personas. You are able to tell your truth, be vulnerable and make choices that are for your higher good.

A Relationship Coach will help you to identify exactly what it is you most want in your life, and how that will allow each of you to be true to yourselves, while also honouring your relationship and each other.

DO you need relationship help?
Contact Ann Jay for a FREE 15-minute phone consultation to discuss your situation and find out how I can help.
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Ann Jay

Ann Jay is a Wellington Relationship Counselor who provides marriage counselling, couple's counselling, and relationship coaching for couples and women either in a relationship or single. Her goal is to help people create healthy, loving and fulfilling relationships and experience the love they deserve.