After being a couple’s counsellor for many years, this is what I have learnt about LOVE


When I first started out as a couple’s counselor, I didn’t know how to help couples move out of emotional pain and start to make positive changes in their relationship.

But as the years went on, and I ‘learned on the job’, I discovered there were some profound lessons to learn about love from working with lots of couples.

Here are the 10 things that I’ve learned about love over the years:

  • No two couples are the same.
  • While no two couples are the same, most couples fall into fairly predictable patterns.
  • Attraction is totally unpredictable.
  • Relationships that start with a bang often end with a bigger bang.
  • There is no such thing as the perfect relationship.
  • Your partner can’t fulfill all your needs.
  • You have more than one soul mate (if you believe in that).
  • Changing your relationship is hard work, but worth it.
  • Relationships can be boring and ordinary at times, and that’s OK.
  • The sex can get even better in a long-term relationship.

If you feel you and your partner need help with your relationship, contact :Ann Jay  Relationship Wellbeing Specialist on 021 26 89 842 or email

  • FREE 15-minute phone consultation ..
  • Based in the Wellington area..



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Ann Jay

Ann Jay is a Wellington Relationship Counselor who provides marriage counselling, couple's counselling, and relationship coaching for couples and women either in a relationship or single. Her goal is to help people create healthy, loving and fulfilling relationships and experience the love they deserve.